Mom is Mad: What Happens When My Kid is Pulled for Dress Code

This morning I received a panicked text message from my 15 year old daughter, Hope. She was in the school office and a random teacher or staff person (i.e. not any of her class teachers) told her the outfit she was wearing was “inappropriate.” She was charged $1 to “rent” a super big shirt to wear in place of her inappropriate clothing.

Below is the offending outfit:

dresscodesaywhatHope’s response? “If I was skinny and didn’t have a butt they wouldn’t pick on me.” SKINNY. My daughter is very thin, but healthy. Due to medication side-effects she has even struggled with being underweight at times. My daughter can look at the skinny people with a different body type and see that long shirts and leggings are okay for them, but that she is held to a different standard. This one teacher has influenced the mind of a teenage girl to erroneously think that her body is not okay and Hope was able to pinpoint the “problem area.” This area has been deemed inappropriate by some arbitrary standard and by saying this is inappropriate said teacher has sexualized my daughter’s body.

Maybe the leggings are the issue? Nope. I checked the policy and it says nothing about wearing leggings. This is a large tunic shirt over leggings and is what many teens wear everyday. It isn’t spandex and it isn’t tights. These are cotton, stretchy leggings that you cannot see through. Here’s a screen shot. Notice the subjective term “immodesty.” Who gets to decided what’s immodest?


Maybe something is wrong with the shirt? Oh wait. It is an Alzheimer’s society shirt Hope purchased at school from a coach.

I spent the better part of my lunch break emailing the principal and outlining the ridiculousness of this “infraction.” I’ve requested Hope get an apology and her dollar back. I’ve also voiced wanting to help rewrite school dress code policy to eliminate discriminating against body type. I’ve requested information on what training faculty receive to pull students for dress code. I’ve indicated a “willingness” to discuss this with the school board.

Two things I wished I asked:

  1. Do they keep track of what students are cited, because I’d love to see a gender breakdown. Pretty sure it is mostly girls suffering at the hands of arbitrary body policing.
  2. Could they provide some peer-reviewed scholarly research on “inappropriate” clothes and their impact on grades and testing. I know the public education system really loves assessment and data, so I’m sure they can provide me with data-supported research.

As it stands now I told Hope to not wear the ugly big shirt and keep wearing her shirt and to direct people who have an issue with it to me. I haven’t had an email back yet, but rest assured I will be following up tomorrow in person.

Weekend Cooking: Pumpkin Everything Edition


At last, it is officially autumn. I’m one of those gals who loves LOVES loves pumpkin spice. I’m not a fan of artificial pumpkin pie flavors (too sweet) and I don’t care for pumpkin spice flavored everything. You can keep your Oreos, Pop-tarts, sausage (?), etc…. I love pumpkin spice coffees and baked goods.

I think folks unfamiliar with baking may focus on the pumpkin aspect and not realize that the spice is really what must keep flowing. Pumpkin in baking adds a rich, creamy, subtle texture and flavor. If it tastes gross, you are probably using the wrong sort of pumpkin. Jack-o-lantern pumpkins are not intended for eating; they can be bland, bitter, or stringy. Go for the smaller “sugar” or “pie” pumpkins or grab a can of pumpkin from your grocery store. Truly, the pumpkin flavor is subtle, but it does wonders for texture and density.

The pumpkin spice is my favorite. Cinnamon, ginger, allspice, nutmeg, and maybe an teeny pinch of cloves is all it takes to make the spice to pair with the pumpkin. In truth my GINGER recipes just have more ginger equal amounts of cinnamon and ginger and contain molasses or dark brown sugar. My PUMPKIN recipes have more cinnamon than ginger and usually use light brown sugar or maple syrup. It is chemistry folks. Dislike pumpkin, but love ginger? Just an adjustment of spices (yet I don’t see snots making fun of gingerbread latte fans in the winter).

Don’t get me wrong, if you don’t like pumpkin spice you’re fine (more for me). I don’t like regular eggnog (I only like the soy version) because it is too heavy and I really hate berry flavors in my coffee (blueberry blend? barf). We all have different likes and dislikes and that’s cool. Autumn lends itself to baking and you can bake up a storm and avoid pumpkin.

But today is all about the pumpkin.

First off, I wanted to share my favorite pumpkin recipe ever. This vegan pumpkin snickerdoodle coffee cake is delicious and quick to put together. It is my go to staple for having folks over, cozy knitting nights, and last year I made it for Atticus’s birthday because one of his friends had a dairy and egg allergy.

I’m linking to the recipe (because copyright, yo!), but here it is:

vegancakeIt is pretty delicious.

I have several other pumpkin recipes I want to try this season. I’m having dinner with friends on Sunday and bringing along slow cooker Pumpkin Baked Beans. I hope they’re good. Here are some other recipes I hope to test this fall:

Throw your pumpkin-inspired recipes my way and I’ll give them a whirl. Not a pumpkin fan? That’s cool. I like all the autumn baking: apples, cranberries, ginger, etc… let me know what you’ll be baking.

Top Ten Tuesday: My Autumn TBR

toptentuesdayToday the readers at Top Ten Tuesday ask what we have on our TBR pile. I couldn’t whittle my stack to 10 items, so here are a dozen books I’d like to read this fall.

Fall TBRCurrently Reading:

The Quick by Lauren Owen

The Thing on the Doorstep and Other Weird Tales by H P Lovecraft

Ten Upcoming Reads:

Surfacing by Margaret Atwood

The Meaning of Night by Michael Cox

Miss Peregrine’s Home for Peculiar Children by Ransom Riggs

The Haunted Hotel by Wilkie Collins

Among Others by Jo Walton

The Dark Horse Book of Hauntings

The Canterville Ghost: Graphic Novel by Oscar Wilde

This House is Haunted by John Boyne

Will Storr vs the Supernatural by Will Storr

The Thirteenth Tale by Diane Setterfield

Have you read any of these titles? Let me know if any in particular would be good to save for Readathon!

Readerly Rambles: 21 September 2015

readerly rambles

What I read: East of Eden by John Steinbeck. This book was picked by you lovely reader on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and in the comments for my classic book for August (ummm it took me a while to read it). If ever there was a book to deserve a proper review it is East of Eden. I lack the ability to sum up how much adored this book in a thoughtful and critical manner, so you will have to make do with over-dramatic exclamations of fondness. Ahem: DEAR LORD THAT WAS A MARVELOUS READ!!! Now, go forth and read it. If you’re lucky I may get around to writing a proper review that reins in my exuberance.

~~~ Stats ~~~

Started: 15 August 2015

Finished: 16 September 2015

Pages: 602


Owned/Borrowed/Library: Owned

Stars: 5 out of 5


What I’m reading: I’ve a few days of a book break while I bask in the glory of Steinbeck. I’ve read a handful of short stories by H.P. Lovecraft for RIPX and I plan to review those once I finish my lovely Penguin Horror copy.


What’s up next: I have Lauren Owen’s The Quick in my bag and I plan on starting that this evening. This is also for the RIPX challenge; the Peril of the Group Read.


Other Bookish News: I went to the public library’s book sale this weekend and behaved so well. I picked up 5 books for $5. Check ’em out –

librarybooks5In other bookish news I completely bailed on the Dog Days of Summer Readathon, BUT I am totally participating in the 24-hour Read-a-thon happening in October. Sign-ups are live! I love this year’s button, BTW!


Happy Reading!

Busy, but good busy

“I am here alone for the first time in weeks, to take up my “real” life again at last. That is what is strange – that friends, even passionate love, are not my real life unless there is time alone in which to explore and to discover what is happening or has happened. Without the interruptions, nourishing and maddening, this life would become arid. Yet I taste it fully only when I am alone here and “the house and I resume old conversations”.”
― May Sarton

The past week has been so very full. Full in a good way, but I feel a bit overloaded by how much I have to think on and process. Perhaps others can just clip along with busyness, but I need the quit and the still to balance out the busy or my heart and mind become too full.

I thought I’d share – and process – some of the marvelous memories I’ve made this week.



I figured I start with the day after my last post. The morning started with a trip to Dunkin Donuts for Sam’s birthday. Then  busy work day of meetings. Race home and a respite of a little over an hour and then ballet class for Atticus. Knitting Knerds in the evening and I managed to finish, wash, and block the baby blanket. I didn’t remember to take pictures. #winning


An even busier day at work because I knew I would be leaving early. Left at 2:15 for therapy. Then grocery store shopping. Then dinner and laundry.


The babysitter arrived by 9 and we left around 9:20 for our date day. We drove to Athens and enjoyed book stores and art supply buying, but Athens was not doing it for us. Although it was an away game day, there were football fans crawling the downtown area. In addition there were two festivals that we just didn’t feel like dealing with; we didn’t want crowds. We just wanted time alone. I was happy with my book purchases and Sam had some great ink, so we decided to head back to our hometown. We had some pumpkin spice lattes and I fished two wooden animals out of my bag. Atticus gave them to us so we wouldn’t “be lonely or forget him” while we were gone. Be still my heart. The night ended with Thai food and we were back at home by 7 to get the kids in bed. The babysitter took them to the park TWICE, cleaned our house, and did our laundry. I came home to exhausted kids who were ready for bed and a spotless house. It was pretty much the best thing ever. We topped off the evening with an episode of Twin Peaks on Netflix.



I nabbed a bit of time to myself in the morning and read East of Eden. That afternoon I had a “date” with Atticus. We went to Old Navy to get my growing boy some new jeans. Then to Starbucks for pumpkin spice lattes (decaf for Atticus) and scones. While we were there Atticus asked me to tell him spooky stories so I made one up on the spot about a spooky house and scared the beejesus out of him. Mom fail. That night I went to bed early.


I went to work that morning and was quite busy. Projects were due, ILL requests streamed in, and my entire afternoon was filled with meetings. I was done by 4, went home and had a brief nap, and then I got ready to meet up with my friend Natasha. We were Athens bound and saw Purity Ring at the Georgia Theater and it was amazing! Afterwards we all had pizza (me, Natasha, and our friend Sean) and then it was back home. I didn’t get home until 3:30 in the morning.


I slept late on Tuesday and worked the closing shift. I didn’t get to see the kids much, but I’m glad I had some sleep that morning. Once again, work was busy. I was home by 10:15 and promptly crashed.



The little kids were out of school as the Pre-K and daycare were closed for professional development. We had haircuts in the morning, playtime, and a solid hour and a half at the park. That evening Sam took Hope out to dinner for their 5-Year Adoption Day Celebration. I love this picture of Hope. Her sweet nature simply shines through. I finally, FINALLY, had some reading time in the evening and finished Steinbeck’s East of Eden. It was marvelous books.


More interlibrary loan at work. I put on my headphones, cranked up Crystal Castles and worked my booty off. Then ballet in the afternoon and more knitting with friends at night. Last night was a terrible night for sleep. Persy was up from 12:45am until 4am. Reason why? 1) I’m night weaning and she was pissed she couldn’t nurse and 2) she was overly excited about the bounce house planned for today. At 4am I woke Sam and told him to just turn TV on and stay with her in the living room. I slept hard until it was time to wake at 6:40 this morning.


I was planning on participating in Bloggiesta and the Readathon, but I just need a few days in which to do nothing. There will be grocery shopping, family cuddles, a trip to the library book sale, some reading, and some knitting, but nothing PLANNED. My goal is to stay home and hide for a few days! I’m aching for an introvert reboot.

Let me know what’s kickin’ in your neck of the woods and I’ll be back early next week (if not sonner).

Works in Progress: 9 September 2015

works in progress


Babies. Babies everywhere. NO, not me… but everyone else is procreating. This translates into a very busy yarn season (oh, embroidery… I miss thee). I am nearly done with one baby blanket for pregnant friend #1. I have five rounds left, weaving in the ends, and then trying to soften the yarn and blocking. My goal is complete this blanket by tomorrow night. Then I have 21 washcloths to complete to make my ABC alphabet cloth set. That is headed to pregnant friend #2. I have a goal to have that done by 10/15. Then there is a “themed” blanket that must be done by 11/15 for pregnant friend #3. Pregnant friend #4 will get her blanket by 12/15. If I timed everything right babies will have blankies four to eight weeks after they are born. Fingers crossed. Then it is on to the Christmas stitching … and baby things for my friends due in January and February.

But first let’s take a look at blanket for friend #1:

tonyablanketI spent a solid hour on Monday wandering around the yarn shop and trying to yarn. I wanted to do the border in one of the colors in this variegated yarn. Everything clashed. The yellow is bright, cheerful, and looks nice with the other colors. #winning

Upcoming Projects

  1. I’m going to a craft fair this weekend and that is pretty exciting!
  2. I’m getting together some autumn-themed Pinterest inspiration for Trish’s upcoming Pin-it and Do-it challenge.
  3. Nanowrimo. Provided we don’t have a tot with a 9-day stomach flu (that happened last year) I will be participating.

On to the projects!!!

A Holiday Weekend with Friends and Books

Early Saturday morning I wrote about eagerly anticipating my weekend plans. Let me tell you that my 24-hours filled with friends and books was even more exciting than I had previously imagined.

I arrived at my best-friend Shannon’s house in the late afternoon. I chatted with Shannon and her wife Amy while Atticus and Persy Jane played with their son. Sam took the kids home around five and then I spent the rest of the evening on their fabulous screened porch drinking (didn’t get drunk, no worries), eating fondue, and chatting. Amy and Shannon’s friend and Shannon’s little brother came over. My friend, Kim, from work stopped by as well. There was also an appearance by a cardboard cutout of Cody Simpson. No idea why, but he looks really real in the pictures.

Shannon cheese for the camera


Leave it to librarian Kim to find a kitty to cuddlefondue

Allllll the fondue!!!


Cody Simpson, y’all

I went to bed around 12:30am and slept for a glorious and uninterrupted 7 hours. I was sore and stiff when I woke because I am so used to getting up several times a night with kids or the cat. In the morning I showered and dressed (let me tell you library cat skirt got many compliments at the book fest) and had a cup of coffee. Then it was off to meet Thomas, from Hogglestock, at Cakes and Ale. I was so nervous meeting Thomas and now I have no idea why. Thomas is so warm and easy to talk to and he ordered some delicious pastries. We talked books (of course), politics, religion, family, etc… After we parted ways I immediately thought of a billion other things I wanted to ask him and those are all going in a letter this week. Thing you may not know about Thomas, he is super tall. Pictures don’t convey the height. I don’t see very many people taller than Sam, but I’m pretty sure Thomas is taller.


Airy cinnamon sugar muffin like things and delicious plum pastries.


Ignore my ratchet hair, focus on the happy faces.

Shannon and I parted ways with Thomas at the Decatur Book Festival in front of the Libba Bray tent. I had every intention of seeing Libba Bray, but as the crowd of teenagers thickened and the noise increased I found myself really just wanting quiet and books. We left and walked around the festival for a few minutes on our way to the Georgia Antique Book and Paper fair. It was indoors (yay) and had hundreds of rare and valuable books. I knew I couldn’t afford anything and limited my purchases to one inexpensive Spider-man book for Sam. The book smell was awesome and I loved looking at the beautiful bindings and illustrations. There was also plenty of ephemera and I spent a fair amount of time sifting through Victorian postcards, buttons, and paper cuttings. We emerged almost two hours later after multiple bookgasms.

more rare books rarebooks festivalstreet

We followed up with lunch at a Taco Mac, gobs of sweet tea, and then it was back home. It was lovely to see my family, but I sure needed this weekend of time with adult friends and books. Next year? Shannon doesn’t know this yet, but I’ll be there all weekend for the book festival!